Our culture is a conundrum. It says that we need to rise and grind, but also treat ourselves lavishly. We need a strong partner who’s also sensitive (the “all the time” is implied). We need lots of money and lots of free time, and we get this message over and over in portals that offer us instant gratification. But that isn’t real.

Reality has peaks and valleys, ebbs and flows. Nature has droughts and floods, sometimes at the same time in different parts of the same country.

No one thing stays the same except love. Love is a constant. And my love for my husband is everlasting. But I have highs and lows in my healthy energy and so does he.

This was demonstrated last week when we had an emergency hospital visit out of the blue. I’m usually calm in a crisis, but seeing my boo so out of whack shook me to my core. But I realized one of us had to pull it together, and he couldn’t. So, I was strong when he was not.

Humans are fragile and faulty, and we aren’t crazy about change. The trick, the secret if you will, is to find a partner who understands the concept of peaks and valleys. To find someone whose emotional landscape complements your own. And after kissing a lot of frogs and marrying a few, I finally found the person whose topography complements mine.

We understand that nothing lasts forever, except the decision to fight whatever may come side-by-side; to watch another sunrise together; and to toast the day with another handcrafted cocktail. That’s all there is, and it’s more than enough!

XO
Terri